Inevitably, most of us will be faced with the passing of a beloved pet and the raw feelings we are left with may lead us to question when it will be the right time, if ever, to welcome a new pet into our homes.
Certainly it is a very big decision and every individual’s needs are different. Many of us hesitate from fear of going through the sadness all over again. Some of us feel a sense of guilt or betrayal at the thought of loving another animal. The grief process is a unique journey for each individual and it does not follow a timeline. Young children will often be sad for only a few days and then move on quickly wanting to get a new pet. They seem to be much better than adults and teens at living in the present moment. Adults and teens often need a long period of time to grieve and resolve their feelings.
The death of a pet often leads to a period of deep grief and acknowledging these feelings is the first step in the healing process. Hopefully one’s immediate family, friends and veterinarian will be helpful in providing the emotional support needed in this difficult period. Additional support can be found through counseling services and many veterinary teaching hospitals provide free telephone support to anyone who needs it.
As the pain of the loss eases and one moves through the grieving process, opportunities for a new pet may present themselves. Surprising a bereaved pet owner with the gift of a new puppy or kitten can be a disservice if the person has not gone through the process of accepting their loss. They need to decide when it is the right time for them. Avoid trying to replace the lost pet with a look-alike pet or with a sibling assuming they will behave similarly. Each animal is an individual with unique habits, personalities and needs.
Ironically, it seems that often the right time occurs when a new pet seems to find an owner. Remember to keep an open heart to the possibility that your next pet may be looking for you.







